my professor spent our entire seminar whining about how thereâs too many girls in our group and not enough boys. he was like âiâm not saying women canât be good surgeons but we need more menâ no, we donât. men suck. deal with it.
CRY ALL YOU FUCKING WANT YOUR TEARS DONâT MEAN SHIT TO ME. YOUR TEARS MEAN DICK TO ME JUST SO YOU KNOW
Okay so not to be that person who adds on to a post with their own story but my mom is a doctor and when I was eleven she took me to these all-female seminar led by a woman who was the head of a hospital because my mom is an empowered and independent woman who wanted her daughter to be the same way and so thereâs like thirty females surgeons in the room, all sitting around his huge circlular confrenece table and talking about their experiences in becoming surgeons
most of them were like âeveryone told me I should become a nurse or a pediatricianâ and âpeople assume that I donât know what Iâm doingâ you know, your average sexist bs
one of the womenâs last name was starboard (yeah I know great name) and she was talking about how even though now she was one of the most accomplished surgeons at the hospital, the male scrub techs (read: guys who didnât go to fucking medical school) and some of the male doctors call her starbitch in the OR because they (scrub techs mostly, strangely enough) try to suggest different ways to care for the patient and she always tells them no you didnât go to med school and I did and so they would go out of their way to get the male doctors to treat the patient differently and then she would have to argue with him to prove what she was doing es right but sometimes the male doctor would come and take over the case anyway and this went on for a while
but then the hospital statistics changed bc this woman was literally being prevented from treating her patients bc the men were interfering and so the administrative head heard about this (she was female) and she was like yâall better stop or yâall better start looking for new jobs and then starboard was allowed to work on her patients and got the scrub techs replaced and all of the sudden, the patients were suddenly doing much better during and after surgery.
when she told this story she was like âpeople still call me a bitch, and maybe I am because I wonât let them walk all over me, but when youâve got something to do, when youâve got a life to save, you have to ignore their bullshit so that you can save someoneâs fuckin life. Sexism should never stop you from accomplishing thatâ
and little eleven-year-old me still remembers that bc I was insecure and awkward and here was this woman who just did what she had to do and ignored all the people trying to stop here and she really was better than all the male doctors (like her patient stats were better) and I thought I should share with you this inspiring woman with the cool last name
so i saw a discussion about feeling empathy toward children where an adult was explaining that they were worried something might be wrong with them bc they couldn’t feel empathy toward children and ultimately always sees them as “little adults” and didn’t want to comfort and nurture or protect them because all they saw was “someone who’d be an adult one day.”
and everyone went on reassuring them that nothing was wrong with them, they just weren’t a naturally parental person, which is fair and true!
but I didn’t see anybody making what I feel is the most important point, which is:
regardless, you still have to pretend empathy for the child.
No, you don’t have to have your own child, you don’t have to go out of your way to interact with children, and nothing is “wrong” with you if you largely find children annoying. you can tell your adult friends “I don’t have any patience for kids and prefer to not be around them,”
but if you view children as “little adults,” you HAVE to then logically say “but they’re not. they’re children, and I’M the ACTUAL adult, and it’s MY responsibility to treat them well and be nice when I’m around them.”
and I don’t want to see any comments like “must be nice to be neurotypical” on this, because I’m not, and there’s no mental illness that makes it okay to treat others badly, sorry. You have to be nice to children.
It’s just literally human decency. It’s one of the most simple rules of our species. Just be good to children.
being the eldest daughter is just *inabilty to show feelings* *putting everyone’s needs firsts* *third parent* *cleaning* *tries to please everyone* *repressed childhood trauma* *Inabillty To Show Feelings*
With the holidays coming up I wanted to let you guys know something amazing that the app Ibotta is doing. Right now they are offering a free Thanksgiving meal.
How it works: 1. Download the app here: Click Here
2. Look for the banner above that states “FREE Thanksgiving Dinner” & click it.
3. You can just enter the email you signed up with and they’ll load the offers into your account. You will then just “click” each coupon so they are ready to redeem. There are a lot of other offers also for free above also that are available to get for free that are not included in the Thanksgiving deal so make sure to clip them also.
4. What you do is go to Walmart (or do pickup) and buy all these items, make sure you get the exact items above. Buy them. Go back to the app and scan the receipt. It’ll put all the money into your account. You can cash out at $20 for instant Paypal money back. Adding all the food above - you hit the $20 automatically. So everything above is COMPLETELY FREE and you get your money back within minutes of scanning the receipt and cashing out.
The big thing I want to stress is right now so many people are struggling. Even if you don’t need it, get it, redeem all the offers, and DONATE IT. If you have a friend struggling, give it to them. Donate it to your local food bank. Someone needs this. You get a ton of stuff for completely free and it can give you a simple Thanksgiving meal. As you see above you can even get a turkey. 2020 has been a terrible year for many families, many need the extra help, so please think about donating the food if anything.
hey everyome i know i dont really post much on here anymore but i just recently ended things with an emotionally abusive ex & i could really use some financial assistance as iâll be recovering from my first gender confirmation surgery next saturday and im really stressing out about how im gonna afford rent without him while being off work for sn entire month. if anyone has it in there heart (and bank account) to send a couple bucks my way i would greatly appreciate it but i understand its tough times for all of us.
i know ppl are weary to donate because of the climate of crowd funding & the unfortunate abundance of scammers so i would like to post some pictures to further clarify the situation for those rightfully hesitant to donate to a stranger.
this is the best evidence i could come up with but basically to further clarify the situation my ex was extremely emotionally abusive & also mildly sexually abusive. (tw: sexual assault- he would force himself inside of me in my sleep like every morning he woke up with an erection which was like every morning)
and these are pictures of me post op to prove that i did infact have facial feminization surgery. now the only issue i have is proving that im having difficulty earning enough money as a black trans woman to afford a living space in new york that i got with another person who im no longer living with. any and all donations will be going towards my survival & potentially towards finding a place i can afford as a minimum wage worker. thank you to all that can donate and for all that cannot a reblog and a prayer will suffice sweetnessâ¤ď¸đ¤â¤ď¸đ¤
inshallah if god wills it so i shall reap honey
ALSO IF U WANNA KEEP UP WITH MY RECOVERY MY INSTAGRAM IS @shegopeaches
i just felt like it was the right thing to do to warn all my new york queers about this young man. his name is Jalani Dehaarte. He was emotionally & sexually abusive towards me for the second half of our 4 month relationship in which he moved in with me under false pretenses, emotionally abused me, sexually abused me & attempted to isolate me from my friends & roommates. heâs about 5â10, 140lbs, carribean background & pansexual. last i saw him was in the Bushwick area of New York where he literally told me, before spitting on my floor and saying âgood luckâ in a demonic tone that he was aledgedy âdone trying to kill myselfâ & âi have nothing to live for & needs to be commited because now the only future i see for myself is where i kill humansâ
i kinda feel like this looks weird under a donations post but i just wanted to have all the information together for ease if access.
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im in philly rn at a family friends house but yall be safe out there. đ¤
We need to do more than sign a petition. Donât shut up about this.
Hey, followers?
Donât scroll past this.
There are people in the notes saying this isnât a gassing and itâs âjustâ a disinfectan0 being sprayed on surfaces to avoid covid, and people are âjustâ having allergic reactions to it
That post explains better what this chemical is and what is going on.
âThe guards are spraying this disinfectant in retaliation for the report [that revealed the deplorable health conditions in detention centers]. To be clear - HDQ is an industrial-strength disinfectant, which according to the manufacturer is âharmful if inhaledâ and âcauses severe skin burns and serious eye damage.â The guards are spraying it on everything every 15-30 minutes, according to sources, and immigrants in the center have already experienced severe symptoms including blisters, rashes, bleeding, fainting, breathing difficulties, headaches, stomach pain, and nausea. â
Itâs not just allergic reactions. Thatâs a severe misunderstanding of what disinfectants do and a refusal to acknowledge how serious this is and WHY people are freaking out.
No, theyâre not literally being gassed in the grandiose (gore-iose?) way youâd think of - being shoved into an iron chamber like animals that then is filled with gas that melts their skin⌠But they are still being forced to into small areas with harmful fumes and surfaces covered in chemicals that are made to eat living matter.
If you had to be in a room for days and weeks with bleach or peroxide all over everything, you donât need to be allergic to start having severe reactions. Cleaning chemicals say to use protective gear and ventilate the area for a REASON.
This is really not okay. It wasnât okay before, and now itâs worse than it was.
I work as a university custodian. This is the chemical weâre using to sanitize surfaces weâve cleaned due to coronavirus. Weâre not supposed to spray it directly on any surfaces. We spray it onto a cloth and then wipe surfaces with it. Itâs supposed to dry before people come into contact with those surfaces. Once it dries on water fountains itâs rinsed off (I donât know if it actually does anything to rinse it off when itâs already dried but thatâs the procedure - we have to let it dry to make sure itâs had enough time to kill virus particles). Thatâs in university buildings with extra ventilation that are sanitized twice a day. This is horrifying.
